John 14:18

“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.”

In the world of adoption, the day that your child legally becomes your child, is known as “gotcha day”.  Adoptive families often make gotcha day celebrations just as important as birthday celebrations.  Today, Tuesday April 27, 2010, our family grew by one five year old little girl.  At around 6am eastern time, Chad and I signed a piece of paper that made her ours.

There wasn’t much fanfare and we rushed out of the room and into taxis as soon as it was official, but she is indeed our daughter.  This country does not allow us to choose what name we would like on the birth certificate and they do not have middle names.  So, for the time being, her name is Sofija Calvaresi.

She now has a birth certificate with Chad and I listed as her parents and with God’s grace, by Wednesday afternoon, she will have a passport that proves to the world that Calvaresi is her last name.  On Friday, she will board an airplane (willingly, thank you, God!), and after a quick stop in Munich, she will set her feet on the land of the free and home of the brave and be declared an American citizen.

If this had been an actual emergency,…..

With all that sweet stuff out of the way, we need prayer!  For the past two days, she has created a whole new emergency broadcast system.   She slaps and we whisper to ourselves, “This is only a test.”  She kicks, we whisper to ourselves, “This is only a test.”  She throws a plate of food all over her sister and then punches her, Chad and I hear sirens going off.  We hold her tight in time-out so that she can’t bite, scratch, pinch, kick, slap, punch, poke, or head-butt us, and we catch our breaths and remind ourselves that, “This. Is. Only. A. Test.”

James 1:2-4

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

Okay, God, I got it.  Chad and I need some perseverance.  We’re obviously lacking in some character trait that you cherish or that we need in order to fulfill your purpose.  We will consider ourselves blessed.  Amen.

7 thoughts on “gotcha

  1. Becky White

    Tricia said “she already looks like a Calvaresi” the first time she saw her. She was always meant to be a Calvaresi! I love the small vase of lily of the valley flowers in the adoption picture – they are the flowers that grew like crazy in my yard growing up and remind me so much of home. HOME. You are all going HOME – together. YAYYYYY! So happy for you. She is a beautiful little wild thing, and she is yours! Congratulations!

  2. Shelley

    The scripture that came to mind as I read your post:

    “In quietness and in confidence shall be your strength.”

    As she finds that she receives quiet, confident, firm boundaries administered in (tough) love, my prayer is that she will feel safe deep inside and able to move past these behaviors. Thank you for letting me be part of your journey via prayer!

  3. hi, I came across your blog from Reece’s Rainbow, and was praying for you and your family, for Sophia, for her to be able to sense His presence and know His peace which passes understanding, which can transform her, and for peace for your family. While I was praying, this came to my mind, about this video that might help Sophia. It is “The Story of Jesus for Children”, in every language, told by children (including Serbian), just in case you haven’t seen it. A blogger shared about how it helped her adopted son from China.

    The video can be located in here:

    and I first found out about it from this blog:

    Praying that everything will come together and that Sophia may have real joy in Him and see things through His eyes. She sounds very smart, and I am praying that He will open her heart so that she may understand what He is like, and desire to follow Him. 🙂

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